New Year Commitments
The beginning of a new year often brings a sense of renewal. We are determined to do better than we did the previous year. With MNRI®, we definitely reap what we sow. Here are some ways to help you build the consistency of the program that will empower both you and your child.
Create a special ritual…
As we go into 2018 with a long “To Do” list, please don’t put MNRI® on the list as something you “have to do”. Doing MNRI® should be a time to savor together; to connect and assist in growth. Let this be your first intention. Is there something you both can share during this time; listening to a story, singing together or just sharing about your day and dreams? Your attitude will go a long way in setting up this time. For many kids, their main objection is being pulled away from something else they want to do. Find a way to help them look forward to this time with you and be the thing they want to do.
Connect…
This is not a time to just go thru the motions. I know when you first learn some techniques you’re focusing on the details, but even then you can ask for your child’s assistance. If they’re non-verbal, explain to them what you are trying to do and include them in the work. Look your child in the eyes. Talk to them about how things feel. It’s their body, help them connect to it. Remember those mirror neurons! Your breath, your feelings, your attitude will all be picked up on as you work on them. Use this time to be fully present and you’ll be surprised by not only how much your child benefits, but also how much you will benefit!
Create a special space…
Consider getting a massage table. This will make both of you so much more comfortable than trying to do it on the couch, bed or floor. Being more comfortable will take away an objection from either of you. Used tables can be found for under $100 online Consider putting the table in a place that is not typically used. This will help move away from other distractions and give it that “special” feeling. If you have the space where you can soften the lighting, this can create a cozy feeling. Decide if it would better to surprise your child with this space or get them involved so they can own it too.
Consistency…
It takes repetition to build neural pathways and the myelin sheath. If this work is done regularly, changes can be seen on a pretty regular basis. Always keep in mind something is better than nothing. So after you have created the special space decide when this is going to be done regularly. Sometimes life will get in the way, but even 5 minutes can make a difference. Of course you can also utilize the techniques randomly throughout the day. There is not one right way to organize your time. Find what will work for your family and include them on making that decision.
Try to keep in mind, they will only be this person in front of you today. Tomorrow they are a new being, ever growing and changing. Connect with them today. Honor and celebrate that person and how exciting that tomorrow you can learn who they are again.
